My fiance and I want a small, intimate wedding of no more than 50 guests. We only want to invite relatives whom we have a close, personal realtionship with, which would mean inviting Aunt Carol but not her sister, Aunt Betsy. We would send out announcements to those we do not invite.
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August 17th, 2010 @8:27 pm
I think that’s fine, after all it is your special day, not Aunt Betsy’s. Make the decision that suits you best and don’t be worried about putting noses out of joint. Good luck and congratualtions
August 19th, 2010 @12:41 pm
Oh….I don’t know. It’s totally up to you, but be prepared for very hurt feelings.
I think if you invite one aunt, you need to invite the other one. Now, however, you CAN just keep it to aunts/uncles. You don’t also need to get into the cousins.
But, your wedding….your decision.
August 20th, 2010 @12:25 am
Do what you have to do…. would it really be a big problem if you invite Betsy and have 51 guests instead of 50?
idk, I’m not inviting one of my 7 aunts (who happens to be my godmother) because she’s jealous of me and has made up lies to slander my name.
August 21st, 2010 @3:42 am
I think that is acceptable, as long as you aren’t inviting Aunt Carol but not her husband, Uncle Jim. Of course, this also depends on yor relationship with your family members and maybe even the size of your family. I know that on my Dads side of the family it would be just fine, as we don’t have many family functions (Christmas, Easter etc.) and it is a fairly large family once you include all the spouses & children. Some of his sisters babysat me all the time and I still see regularly, whereas his brother is practically a stranger. On my mothers side of the family, since it is so much smaller, it might require some explanation but I think they would be understanding if it was a small, intimate affair.
August 23rd, 2010 @11:09 pm
I think that’s fine. I have an uncle and aunt-in-law who never bothers keeping contact with the family, never coming to family reunions or Christmas dinners or anything like that.
So am I inviting them? No. Do I feel bad about it? No, they’re no better than strangers to me and my family.
So I think inviting one aunt and not the other is fine if you don’t have a close relationship with one.
August 25th, 2010 @10:18 pm
Yes. It’s okay to exclude some family members from a wedding. For whatever reason doesn’t really matter. This is a day about two people being surrounded by love and those that are closest to them. You are doing the right thing sending announcements to those not invited. That way they don’t feel totally ignored. If they ask just be honest. Good luck.
August 26th, 2010 @10:28 am
Only invite those you want there. Don’t feel obligated to invite people you have no relationship with. Being related by blood means zilch as far as some people’s relationships go.
August 28th, 2010 @8:10 am
It depends on your family dynamics and how everyone will handle some being invited and not others. In my family, that wouldn’t go over too well. So I wouldn’t do it myself.
August 31st, 2010 @6:44 am
It not like you are having a big wedding and only excluding her! Besides it is your day.
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